find oneself

Short definition from Wiktionary

Verb

1. 1
   To learn, or attempt to learn, what kind of person one is and what one wants in life.
2. 2
   To unexpectedly or unintentionally begin to do or experience something.
3. 3
   To be in a particular state of mind.
4. 4
   To find (something) for oneself.
5. 5
   To discover oneself to be in a particular place.